Give yourself some distance

Many of the things that get to you are not worth the energy and the trouble that you invest in them. Do yourself a favor, and give yourself some distance from them.

Break the pattern of automatically reacting in the same way, time after time, to all the minor disturbances that come along. Sometimes, the best response is no response at all.

Seek to rise above the petty dramas that don’t do anyone any good. Keep in mind that where you put your awareness and your attention is where your life will go.

There are so many beautiful, positive outlets for your energy. Every day is full of possibilities for building, creating, loving, learning and growing.

Certainly there will always be difficulties in life that must be addressed and attended to. Yet there is no reason to make for yourself any needless difficulties of confrontations.

A sign of true strength is the willingness to completely let go of the things that don’t really matter. Choose to exercise that strength, and keep life focused in a positive, meaningful direction.

— Ralph Marston

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Overwhelmed?

There’s a big pile of work on your desk and you wonder how you can ever get it all done. There’s a long list of things to do on your calendar, and you wonder how you will ever get through them all.

It’s time to stop wondering and start doing. Begin with whatever is on top of the pile, get it done, and then move on to the next thing. Rather than letting yourself become overwhelmed by the enormity of the task, start whittling away at it.

If you can’t possibly get it all done, that’s all the more reason to start doing some of it right away. Getting frustrated or worried about it will only waste your time and make it worse. Instead, put your energy where it will count. Every moment, every effort will make a positive difference and will bring you closer to finishing the task.

When you have a lot to do, that’s great! It sure beats the alternative of being bored and aimless. Dive into it and enjoy the experience of making a real and positive difference, and of getting things done.

— Ralph Marston

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Focus on the goodness

Remind yourself how good you have it. Then challenge yourself to do something meaningful and significant with what you have.

Sure, you have your problems and challenges. Yet they are far overshadowed by the positive possibilities and opportunities open to you.

In fact, some of those very problems might indeed point you toward your most valuable possibilities. Even when life is at its most difficult, it is overflowing with opportunities.

What a shame it would be to have so much and not make full use of it. What a shame it would be to not experience and express and spread life’s richness far and wide.

Don’t even think about complaining about what you don’t have, for it is a waste of your precious life. Focus instead on all the goodness you do have in your world.

Embrace that goodness, and make it even more vibrant as it flows out from you. Realize how good you truly have it, and make it better and better.

— Ralph Marston

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Laugh at every excuse

The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse for not taking action. No matter what the situation, there’s always an excuse that sounds perfectly reasonable and that can provide you with permission to do nothing.

Rarely does it help to fight against the excuses, because that just leads to even stronger and more compelling excuses. So how do you get around them?

Connect with a dream that is bigger than any excuse could possibly be. Grab hold of a dream that’s so compelling it makes you laugh at every possible excuse.

If your goal is to do what you don’t really want to do anyway, even the weakest excuse can stop you cold. If, however, your goal is tied to an authentic, personally meaningful dream, that’s a completely different situation.

And that makes perfect sense. Because if it doesn’t really matter to you anyway, there’s not much point in spending your precious time on it.

Choose instead to live the beautiful, meaningful dreams that you truly desire to live. And no setback, no challenge, no excuse will have the power to even slow you down.

— Ralph Marston

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