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Many of the things that get to you are not worth the energy and the trouble that you invest in them. Do yourself a favor, and give yourself some distance from them.
Break the pattern of automatically reacting in the same way, time after time, to all the minor disturbances that come along. Sometimes, the best response is no response at all.
Seek to rise above the petty dramas that don’t do anyone any good. Keep in mind that where you put your awareness and your attention is where your life will go.
There are so many beautiful, positive outlets for your energy. Every day is full of possibilities for building, creating, loving, learning and growing.
Certainly there will always be difficulties in life that must be addressed and attended to. Yet there is no reason to make for yourself any needless difficulties of confrontations.
A sign of true strength is the willingness to completely let go of the things that don’t really matter. Choose to exercise that strength, and keep life focused in a positive, meaningful direction.
— Ralph Marston
There’s a big pile of work on your desk and you wonder how you can ever get it all done. There’s a long list of things to do on your calendar, and you wonder how you will ever get through them all.
It’s time to stop wondering and start doing. Begin with whatever is on top of the pile, get it done, and then move on to the next thing. Rather than letting yourself become overwhelmed by the enormity of the task, start whittling away at it.
If you can’t possibly get it all done, that’s all the more reason to start doing some of it right away. Getting frustrated or worried about it will only waste your time and make it worse. Instead, put your energy where it will count. Every moment, every effort will make a positive difference and will bring you closer to finishing the task.
When you have a lot to do, that’s great! It sure beats the alternative of being bored and aimless. Dive into it and enjoy the experience of making a real and positive difference, and of getting things done.
— Ralph Marston
Remind yourself how good you have it. Then challenge yourself to do something meaningful and significant with what you have.
Sure, you have your problems and challenges. Yet they are far overshadowed by the positive possibilities and opportunities open to you.
In fact, some of those very problems might indeed point you toward your most valuable possibilities. Even when life is at its most difficult, it is overflowing with opportunities.
What a shame it would be to have so much and not make full use of it. What a shame it would be to not experience and express and spread life’s richness far and wide.
Don’t even think about complaining about what you don’t have, for it is a waste of your precious life. Focus instead on all the goodness you do have in your world.
Embrace that goodness, and make it even more vibrant as it flows out from you. Realize how good you truly have it, and make it better and better.
— Ralph Marston
The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse for not taking action. No matter what the situation, there’s always an excuse that sounds perfectly reasonable and that can provide you with permission to do nothing.
Rarely does it help to fight against the excuses, because that just leads to even stronger and more compelling excuses. So how do you get around them?
Connect with a dream that is bigger than any excuse could possibly be. Grab hold of a dream that’s so compelling it makes you laugh at every possible excuse.
If your goal is to do what you don’t really want to do anyway, even the weakest excuse can stop you cold. If, however, your goal is tied to an authentic, personally meaningful dream, that’s a completely different situation.
And that makes perfect sense. Because if it doesn’t really matter to you anyway, there’s not much point in spending your precious time on it.
Choose instead to live the beautiful, meaningful dreams that you truly desire to live. And no setback, no challenge, no excuse will have the power to even slow you down.
— Ralph Marston
New addition to my already very long bucket list!
– Plant herbs and pretty flowers
– Dance and have lots of fun while watching a concert
– Backup all my videos
– Explore my barriosiete
– Buy my own car using my passive income
– Buy a bicycle too and a bike rack at cracksandracks.com
– Learn how to ride a motorcycle
– Ice skates even for once
– Reunite with my college friends
– Travel abroad alone (Thailand, Cambodia, Laos, Vietnam)
Will update more when
When you are truly happy and fulfilled, it will show. Be careful, though, not to confuse the symptoms of happiness with happiness itself.
Happiness shows itself in many ways. Remember, however, that those outward manifestations are not the source of happiness.
The signs of happiness you see in others are the results, not the cause of their happiness. Chasing those same results in an attempt to bring happiness to your own life is an empty pursuit.
Instead, live each day with gratitude, with wonder, awe, love and kindness. Be happy, without first requiring a reason to be.
And the symptoms of happiness will begin to show in you. What’s more, they’ll be real and meaningful, not just empty tokens.
Rather than expecting happiness to come to you from the outside, let it come from you, pouring forth from the inside. And delight in the joy your happiness creates.
— Ralph Marston
These past few days had been a roller coaster of emotions for me. I just recently found out something really really amazing and admirable and I still can’t fully grasp how and why I let go of something beautiful like that in my life. Oh yes, regrets!
Sayang! But it’s ok. I can never change what happened in the past, so from this point onwards, there is no more wishing and hoping I had done things differently 11 years ago hahaha. I am moving forward!!!
Found this on the net while
stalking err searching someone something. Very inspiring and uplifting. So agree on using the sunscreen. My mother would always tell me to bring umbrella when walking under the sun, my Aunt told us once to wear shades when going outside so we wont easily have wrinkles, I didn’t believe any of it until now. So a few weeks back, I bought myself an expensive umbrella, for the first time ever! You’re only young once so enjoy it! Have fun and don’t forget to wear sunscreen!
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Aside from “I’m fine, thank you”, my new motto in life is “Money, come to me!”
Last night, while traversing Masinag Hi-way heading to Cubao, one of my colleagues mentioned out of nowhere that she doesn’t have any desires to be rich. My thoughts on that subject are very opposite. I wanna to be rich! I wanna be able to buy all the things I want. I want to travel the world! And if I have lots of money, I will not think twice to share it and become a blessing to others. I don’t understand why people can say easily that they don’t want to have lots of money, because most people I know think otherwise. And even when I was very young and roleplaying with my cousins, I always wanted to play the role of a “senyorita” hahaha, someone who lives in a huge house with a spiral staircase, who wears nice clothes at home, has a classic telephone and a complete set of victorian sofa!
Well maybe she grew up having nice things in life already. Can’t blame her.
I need money not just because I need it for myself. I need more money so I can be more of help to others. I need more money so I can provide more for my family. I need money so I can plan my next 10-20-30-40-50 years. No one knows what will happen in the future. I could be healthy and fit today, but not tomorrow (Oh Lord, pls. guide me and keep me safe, including my family and friends, all the time). I’m not being all negative, I just wanna make sure I don’t cause burdens to anyone, even when it’s my time to go (Lord, I wanna live longer!). It wont hurt to be prepared, nothing wrong if you think about planning your own memorial service (check here for funeral planning guide) as early as now. It doesn’t mean you’re in a hurry to use it, ok. Just making sure everything is well planned!
Lord, you know what are my desires. Help me to find the means by which to live comfortably, free from financial worries and burdens.