Most of my friends are now settled, and has started to build their own families while some didn’t manage to take the pressures of “marriage” and separated. It saddens me to see how these people walk away from each other. Recently, one of my friends contacted me on Friendster to ask for my advice. Here’s the situation, my friend and his wife just separated, and his wife wont allow him to see their child ever again. He’s now fighting for child custody. They have a 3 year old son.
Hell no! I am not a lawyer, I don’t have kids yet and what the heck do I know about Family laws? So being the dependable slash always-at-your-side friend that I am, I researched and here’s what I found, under Phil Family Code, no child under seven years of age shall be separated from the mother, unless the court finds compelling reasons to order otherwise.
Now, is this law absolute? No.
The wife may be deprived of the custody for these compelling reasons – neglect, abandonment, unemployment and immorality, habitual drunkenness, drug addiction, maltreatment of the child, insanity, and affliction with a communicable illness.
The thing is fighting for child custody can sometimes take a very long time. Besides, I know his wife and I can say that she remained faithful and not once got drunk or addicted to illegal drugs. The court will definitely award her the custody. I told him to sort things out with his wife first but if it’s impossible for them to get back together, fighting for child visitation (check out nationalfamilysolutions.com for more info.) is the best solution.
I’m not in the position to tell you guys what you need to do, but I would like you to patch things up, accept each other’s flaws, forgive and live a happy life together. You know me, I am a sucker for true love and happy ending stories. I wish you guys will realize that in this battle, your child is the one suffering the most.